One of the issues the author addresses is our increasingly busy lifestyles and the inevitable busyness that children bring to our lives. Some of her thoughts on how we use our time:
Sometimes managing the details of work and family life feels like putting together a thousand-piece interlocking jigsaw puzzle….
Most parents today – single, married, divorced, women and men – work and care for kids….they do not live out their faith through one primary vocation…as might have been the case for their own parents. They pursue dual, triple, even multiple vocations, in venues more sharply divided from one another – the work-place and the home front – than during any other era in human history.
Our efforts to handle multiple vocations of work and family often force us to confront the terrible tyranny of time.
She goes on to say that we make changes in our life-styles to accommodate the fact that we are trying to “squeeze more in” to our lies in order to keep up with demands on our time. Then she goes on:
A chaotic family life can be a faithful life. But unrelenting, brain-numbing activity is not good for anyone. We have to be extremely careful about calling this spiritual.
…Some of our busyness is just that: a deadening busyness that distracts and destroys the capacity for joy and awe…
Rather than glorify all this running around as somehow spiritual and sanctified, it makes sense to question the pace at which we live and to consider how to slow down. We can and should change a life that is debilitating, scheduling less, facing our unhealthy addiction to an inhumane routine, and sustaining practices that help us discern how to say no to experiences and stuff that our culture says are essential for children….
Adhering strictly to strategies of simplification can impede the tumultuous richness of life by trying to clean it all up. Sometimes, realistically, it is impossible to simplify life with children. Instead we must find ways not to flee or control time but to live graciously within its entanglement.
From In The Midst Of Chaos by Bonnie J. Miller- McLemore Chpt. 3